Forgiving someone isn’t easy

By Samuel Lam

It ain’t easy, but it’s right.

This past Sunday, Trinity continued with their #DoHardThings sermon series and the topic was about forgiveness. Boy, that ain’t easy.


Forgiveness is something that should be part of our daily lives as Christians. We are taught to forgive others because we ourselves have been forgiven. The mercy that God shows us should be something we give to others.

But it’s not easy.

Forgiveness may be the hardest topic to really take in from the #DoHardThings sermon series. Many times, especially for me, I’m too prideful. I want to come out as the “stronger” person. Somehow forgiving someone makes me appear weaker, making it appear that not taking vengeance is a sign of me being less of a man. Of course it’s silly to think that is true when you take a couple steps back. But in the moment, it’s hard to be logistical.

I have been wronged in my lifetime. Who hasn’t? There are times where people unintentionally hurt me. There are times where people were unaware of what they were doing. And there have been times where the wounds are still there. I still think about them. It’s still in my mind. The what ifs and the maybes are still there. It’s not a major burden, but it shouldn’t be a burden to begin with. I should just let it go.

I think I’ve gotten to the point where I know that there’s nothing else I can do about it. It’s been so long and harboring it in does me no good. It’s actually pretty unhealthy to think about how people have hurt me from such a long time ago. Every part of me has moved on. Why can’t the forgiveness part come as easily?

One thing that always comes to me whenever a thought comes up in my mind is 1 Corinthians 13. Verse 5 is the one that reminds me to forgive.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

If I proclaim to be a follower of Christ, then I should be loving others as He did. And part of loving others is to not hold onto the wrongdoings. If I don’t hold onto these grudges or accounts of people wronging me, then the thoughts will never come up. Then I can forgive and move on.

Forgiving isn’t easy. It’s not supposed to be easy. But it’s what we do as followers of Christ. And trust, ridding of that burden and dark cloud over me is a relief.

I let God come into my heart, remind me about His love for me. If I am filled with love, then forgiving others comes easier. If God can love me after all the wrong things I’ve done, then I can surely show the same love to someone who hurt me. Life is better when you’re not bitter. Just remember to love.



Samuel Lam: Samuel is a Bay Area native living in Southern California working in sports media. He blogs on many topics, including sports, music, movies, travel and especially faith. Sam also runs his own personal sports blog on his free time. Check him out at: Green Eggs and Lam & But At The End Of The Day.


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