Why is it so hard for me to tell people I go to church?

A somehow odd yet perfect image I found on Google.

Ever since I was a kid growing up and going to church because my parents told me to, it has been a very odd relationship I’ve had with attending a building every Sunday. On one hand, I enjoy it and in my recent years, I have grown to really love it and find it as the highlight of my week.

But also in the same sense, I don’t speak much about it outside of those four walls. Rarely did I ever share with co-workers, friends, even strangers, that I attend church on Sundays. It’s not something I bring up. Even when the topic of weekend activities is brought up, church is never mentioned. I was comfortable talking about almost anything else but church.

It’s hard to sometimes be open about church and there are reasons for it. For me, I didn’t want to open up a new conversation about my faith. I didn’t want people to think of me differently. And sometimes I just felt me talking about going to church would fit in the discussion. I just didn’t think it belonged.

I was so selfish.

It was so hard for me to maintain my image. With all my friends, I didn’t know if I could bring up the topic of church. We never talked about church before. So I didn’t think it was on me to be the first guy to bring it up. I was afraid of how they would react. I was afraid that they might think of me differently. I just didn’t want to deal with it.

In the past few months I have gotten more comfortable about sharing the fact that I go to church. But how did this come to be?

I think one of the main reasons is because my heart for God is growing. I have looked at my life numerous times and have found that God is such a focal point of it. I can see God in almost every aspect of my life. With that being the case, It became easier for me to share about the fact that I go to church. I don’t hesitate as much. I just feel that it’s that important to my life that I can just say it without fearing of any potential backlash. (And there shouldn’t be any backlash anyway for me just stating that I go to church.)

It was selfish for me to just keep it all to myself. Isn’t my faith in God not big enough that I can bring about me going to church even in my regular conversations? God is that big and more. I should be more comfortable talking about Him and where I go on Sundays.

I don’t know if there is a solution for this. I know that I am not the only person who struggles with the confidence and security about openly talking about something as simple as going to church. But i do know that this was a product of my growing faith in God. I knew that as my faith grew stronger, the fear started to disappear. It only took one mention in one conversation to get the ball rolling.

For those of you who struggle with this, I recommend that you just keep an open mind about bringing this up. Don’t let your own fear take over. Rather, let God calm your heart and when the time comes, you will speak confidently about it because your confidence is in Him.

It’s a small step. But once you take the first one, the journey gets a whole lot easier. Trust that when you share about your faith, God will guide you every step of the way. You never know what great possibilities may come from it.

Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. — Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)



Samuel Lam: Samuel is a Bay Area native living in Southern California working in sports media. He blogs on many topics, including sports, music, movies, travel and especially faith. Sam also runs his own personal sports blog on his free time. Check him out at: Green Eggs and Lam & But At The End Of The Day.


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