By Cindy Cameron
There are a lot of voices in the world suggesting how women should live and act in this world. Articles of “advice” litter my Facebook page and it’s enough to make me feel like I am going crazy. Some voices are good – my own voice, my parent’s, everyone who I love. But other voices are not so good – everyone who I fear, society’s voice, social media, and worst of all, Satan’s voice. Everyone has the platform to write an article and have people read it thanks to the Internet. Even me, as I contribute to this blog!
Every week, it seems like a new article is posted on Facebook about the “30 things to do before 30” or “15 signs you are in introvert” or what character you are from a movie based on your Myers-Briggs type. I’ll admit it, I read all those articles. But after a while, I got tired of seeing the cookie cutter outlines that all women are supposed to fit in. The laundry list of qualities to have is overwhelmingly burdensome. The generic travel/relationship/lifestyle advice is repetitive and I can only assume that the same applies for guys, since there are probably those same gender stereotyping articles floating out there too, but I haven’t read them. Let’s face it, if we all did the things on those lists, a list of 30 more things would be written.
But wait a minute, didn’t God make me uniquely?! If I don’t work my dream job/take a road trip/write a book before I turn 30, God is not disappointed in me. I don’t have to fit into the pretty little ISTJ box that psychologists created. I can just be who God created me to be, whoever that is and I can walk down the path that He has for me. All the voices, good or bad, can send me on a little detour of the path God has planned for me, if I’m not careful to discern whose voice it is.
The only voice we need to focus on is God’s. God’s voice pushes all the other voices to the side, and can make what seemed like the most complicated situation so very very simple. When other voices are allowed to shape my life, I become confused and often take a longer route to get where God really wants me to be. God’s voice silences the other ones all around us. Don’t know how to handle a situation at school/work? Struggling to figure out what to do with the rest of your life? Listen for God’s voice. Protect your identity. Know God’s voice and listen to God’s voice.
Now then, my children, listen to me; blessed are those who keep my ways.
Listen to my instruction and be wise; do not disregard it.
Blessed are those who listen to me, watching daily at my doors, waiting at my doorway.
For those who find me find life and receive favor from the Lord.
– Proverbs 8:32-35
Cindy is the coordinator for Trinity’s House Church, The Fellowship. The Fellowship is Trinity’s alternative spiritual community focused on making deep connections and enjoying each other’s talents and company. We meet in our homes, where we build camaraderie around singing, sharing, prayer and food. Join us on the 1st and 3rd Sundays of each month.